“My son's school really blew it on this one.”
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Dear Annie,
I told my son I was really sorry this happened to him and I hoped he could separate it from the rest of the trip which he said was great. He said he understood there were some bad boys who did bad stuff, but my son could absolutely not understand why he was punished for what other kids did. Our school has a big "character counts" program and this does not seem to fit with what they teach, especially in the area of respect. Respecting individuals... not treating all like they were misbehaving. I am disappointed with the teaching staff. It feels like the kids are being punished for the teachers' incorrect decision to have kids ALONE in a cabin. Is there some psychology principle about punishing all the boys for the crime of one or two?Perplexed Mom
Dear Perplexed Mom,
I'm not aware of any "psychological principle" that indicates the benefits of "punishing a group for the wrong-doing of a few."
From what you've described, the disciplinary actions for the alleged offenses make no sense in terms of good child development practices. Though I'm sure the teachers who were at the retreat will offer their own version of what went on and can justify why they did what they did.
As a parent, you are all entitled to a clear explanation from the school. In addition, you deserve an opportunity to question the adults who were there and voice your feelings.
I hope you're given that chance.
In friendship,
Annie
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