Reading this book was like being on a meditation retreat with a focus on what it means to be a parent.
There’s so much wisdom here that’s directly applicable to the unique job of raising healthy
human beings. Happily, the authors are experienced teachers and wise enough to use a reassuring tone throughout
that really allows the reader to hear what’s being presented. Not surprising since Jon Kabat-Zinn
is founder and former director of the Stress Reduction Clinic, as well as author of two best-sellers, Full
Catastrophe Living and Wherever
You Go, There You Are. While
the Kabat-Zinns talk about all stages of childhood, their insights into the challenges of parenting teens
were of particular interest. Here’s a sample of what they have to say on that score:
“Being empathetic in the face of rejection requires us to not let our own hurt feelings get
in the way of seeing the pain our child may be feeling. In some sense our children have to feel us
holding on to them, no matter what repugnant (to our mind) spells come over them, no matter what dark
disguises they try on.”
That’s something to keep in mind next time you’re dealing with a raging or negative teen.
Here’s another really thoughtful question posed by the authors:
“When you were a child,
what did you most want from your parents?”
Interesting one to ponder, isn’t it? And think
how your answer could help guide your parenting! This is the kind of invaluable “inner work” Everyday
Blessing gives you an opportunity to do. I recommend this book for its power to change parents
and families for the better.
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