Annie (AKA Hey Terra!) has been around long enough to have experienced a lot of what Life can dish out. But, it hasn’t been so long that she's forgotten what it's like to be your age. Check out some of the thousands of email questions teens from around the world have sent to Terra. You may learn something useful from her answers:
Giving it a second chance:
“My bf isn't acting normal.”
Hey Terra,My boyfriend and I broke up on Sunday, and then he called me and told me he loved me and made a mistake so we are going back out. It's been a day since we were back together and he hasn't been acting normal. Like he hasn't called me baby or said he loves me or anything. Is this because we are just getting back together? Because I miss it.
Still His Baby
Dear Still His Baby,
I don't think it's because you're "just getting back together." You weren't apart long enough for him to forget that he used to call you "baby." My guess (and it's only a guess) is that whatever caused the break is still bothering him. He's not "acting normal" with you now because he isn't feeling "normal."
If this relationship is going to get back on track (assuming it was good at some point in the past) then you two have got to have an open honest conversation about what went wrong before. Why did you break up? What part did each of you play in the problems that led up to the break up? In other words, you have to work together to acknowledge the problems and come up with new ways of dealing with the issues in the future.
You can't expect to just jump back into to "we're in love and everything's cool" if you don't discuss what went wrong and how to fix it.
Need some advice? Write to Terra. She'll give you a straight answer you can trust without any lectures.