Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

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Getting over a broken heart:
“I've kinda been stalking my ex.”

Hey Terra,

I've been sort of stalking this guy I used to go out with. (He has a new girlfriend now.) I'd like to apologize to him and his girlfriend, but how do I? I still have feelings for him. But I want to make it clear that I feel sorry for my attitude. Should I apologize to him and his girlfriend separately or to them both together? What words should I use? This is important.

Thank you,


Dear Sorry,

I have so much respect for you for realizing that what you've been doing has been hurtful to others. Brava! It really doesn't matter if you apologize to them separately or together. Whichever you would feel most comfortable doing. The important thing is that you tell them you're sorry for your past behavior. Use words that speak the truth of your heart. You might say something like this: "I'm really sorry that I've been following you around. It wasn't right and I apologize." That's all you really need to say. You don't have to tell them that you have feelings for the guy or any of that. Just that you realize what you did was wrong and that you're sorry.

I'm sure you'll feel much better afterwards and hopefully you've learned something really important from this.

Let me know what kind of response you get from your ex and his girlfriend after you apologize.

In friendship,


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