Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Annie (AKA Hey Terra!) has been around long enough to have experienced a lot of what Life can dish out. But, it hasn’t been so long that she's forgotten what it's like to be your age. Check out some of the thousands of email questions teens from around the world have sent to Terra. You may learn something useful from her answers:

Wish I had one:
“Should I ask her out?”

Hey Terra,

There is this girl at my school. I have had a crush on her since the start of the year. Yet I am too scared to talk to her. I am afraid of rejection because that happened to me before. I know I shouldn't be, but I am. I am going to try to ask her out on Valentine's Day. That is if I have the courage. My question is, if I don't ask her out on Valentine's Day, what should I do?

Good Guy

Dear Good Guy,

I agree with you that you should ask the girl out. Every time you make a move in the direction of showing someone that you like them, you risk rejection. So what? What's the alternative? To spend your life shuttered in a "safe" place where you'll never be rejected? There's a line from a song I know that goes: "Those who don't try never look foolish." If it's your goal never to look foolish then you can set up your life that way and never take a risk. I personally I wouldn't recommend that route.

So ask her out, but not for Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day is a day for sweethearts. It doesn't feel right to be asking someone out for the first time on that day.

Good luck!

In friendship,


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