Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. Well, you’ve come to the right place. Teens have been writing to me since 1997 because they know I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else that’s confusing… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. Some choices make things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move.
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
April 15, 2013This morning's email brought some of the usual questions from TeenWorld:
- How do I stop being shy so I can make more friends?
- Should I tell me bff that I kissed her bf?
- My friend can be kinda mean, but my life wouldn't be the same with out her. What should I do?
- My parents accuse me of smoking and doing drugs. I don't! How can I get them to trust me?
And then there was this one. Even though I've heard it before, somehow it felt new. I responded right away, but if that's all I did only one girl would see it. For something this important I decided to go bigger.
Girls, have a read. So when it comes to self-respect, relationships and sex, we can get clear on a few basics. If you're a mom with a girl of your own, you should read it too. (Just don't go nuts and accuse your daughter of anything! Not helpful for keeping open the portals of trust and communication.) And if you're a teen guy or a dad, probably a good idea for you to read it too. Then you can think (and maybe even talk) about respect and relationships and the god's honest truth that girls and guys don't typically share a common perspective on sex and what it means.
A lot of my friends have lost their virginity and I really want to lose it and get it over and done with. This guy that I've known for ages but haven't seen for a while wants me to come over tomorrow have sex with him. I want to, but I don't know what the consequences are. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“Can you get pregnant from oral sex?”
I just have a simple question to ask you... my boyfriend and I are almost 18, and we have oral sex. I've heard from people that you can get pregnant from swallowing a guy's sperm... then other people said you can't. Which is it? Can you get pregnant from unprotected oral sex, if you swallow a guy's sperm? Just to inform you as well, we're both well educated on STDs so that's not a problem in our relationship. It would really help if you could answer my question.
“I'm not getting what I want from my bf but I'm afraid to make him mad.”
I love my boyfriend so much. He's caring and amazing and my family loves him, but there is one problem. He gets in these random moods where it's like he doesn't want me. I know he loves me but it makes me so upset! I feel like I'm not getting enough attention and sometimes he doesn't treat me good enough. He knows this and always apologizes and asks if I'm getting enough attention and to not hurt his feelings I say yes. How do I ask for some more attention and love without hurting him or making him mad? He's such a good guy, and I'm his first gf. I don't want to lose him, but I need to fix...
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