Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
July 16, 2014
Breaking up is hard to do. And painful. Hopefully, though, there were good times before the relationship tanked, so at least you've got some happy memories. On the other hand, if you're obsessed with someone who was never nice to you, well, that's just pain on pain. No one needs that.
Recently got an email from a girl in that dark place. Read on...
My heart aches for him and I really want to move, but I find myself checking his instagram, facebook, and all other social media just to see him. I cant let go, even though I want to so bad. I'm torn between wanting him to want me and wanting to forget about him completely. It's been almost a year. I just hate this obsession. What do I do? –So Stuck
Dear So Stuck,
The truth may hurt, but I've got to say it anyway. This guy doesn’t care about you, That's the way it is. You may wish things were different, but all the wishing in the Known Universe and beyond will not change fact.
Here’s something else that’s true: You deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. This guy is not The One. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you will find The One (Maybe during this coming school year! There’s an exciting thought!)
In the meantime, you've got to stop checking up on this guy. It’s a total waste of the summer and, more important, it's bringing you down. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“Is my mom crazy?”
“I'm 18 and my crush is 27.”
My mom is a psycho! I've only just now started to figure this out at age 14 (I'm a guy, by the way). Right now, I have a lot of trouble in school staying focused and getting my work done on time. I also get busted a lot for messing around in class. Well, I've figured a few things out. When I was younger, I always got my way. Even if I wanted to walk around the class in the middle of a lesson, my mom would go to the teacher and order her to let me do as I pleased. I was never wrong, about anything! Even if I picked a fight with someone. I know it may sound funny to say that she's at fault...
This guy I have a crush on is 27 (I'm 18). I think he's nice and caring and looks gorgeous. The only big problem I see is that he has a girlfriend and a kid. So he is with someone his own age. I just have a crush but I'm not dating him. He flirted with me when I first met him. He asked me to go for a walk but I didn't cause I didn't want his girlfriend to start anything with me. I heard she has a bad attitude. But I know for a fact that I can't get with this guy cause he lives far away. I was beginning to think he was joking when he flirted considering he has somebody. I've dreamed about...
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