Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“My friend is obsessed with the guy that I like.”

 

“I know a secret that has made me not trust my bf.”

Hey Terra,

My best friend is like OBSESSED with this guy and I totally like him. He likes me too but he won't ask me out because he knows me and her are real good friends and doesn't want to ruin that but he wants my best friend off his back! What should I do?

Young and Hopeless

 

Hey Terra,

I've known this guy for 6 months now. Things are alright, but something happened a couple of weeks ago. We were telling each other about how we feel about each other. We also shared things about our lives. But I found out something (not something he's told me) and my feelings for him have changed forever. I don't know what to do though. He doesn't know that I know his secret. Should I tell him about what I found out about him? Or should I just keep it to myself and just move on without him? I really want him to be part of my life because I love him but he keeps shutting me off. What should...

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Annie’s Blog:
Parenting Question: Why Are Girls' Friendships So Dramatic?

June 25, 2015

We're up to Part 4 of this (mostly) parenting Q&A series. I'll occasionally throw in a teen question because, hey, it's always enlightening to hear kids talk about what we do that drives them nuts. Today's question concerns the confusion of a parent whose daughter is having an emotionally difficult time (again) with a best friend.

Best friends forever, right? Best friends forever, right?

Today's Question: Why are girls' friendships so dramatic? My daughter had a best friend from 2-5th grade. When that girl moved away, my daughter was distraught. Now she's in 7th, with a new best friend who may be losing interest. My daughter is getting very worried and upset. What can I do to help her put this in perspective?

Since 1997, the #1 issue girls write to me about is betrayal or rejection by a friend. Specifically, "My bff has a new bff! What do I do?" The email writer goes on to describe how she's crying herself to sleep, has lost her appetite and doesn't want to go to school or anywhere! Parents are often confounded by the intensity of their daughter's emotions in these situations. Moms and Dads want to know what they can do to help.

Here's the way I see it: A girl's dramatic response to a friendship that's cooling off resembles how one might react to a romantic break-up. Some girls even refer to losing a friend as getting "dumped." Girls' attachment to other girls is a precursor to their search for the The One, aka the Soul Mate, if you believe in that kind of stuff. More »


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