Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
“I need information on teen pregnancy.”
“Do you think it's okay to have a co-ed sleep-over?”
In English we have to say a 7 minute presentation about something so I was wondering if you could help me out by answering 3 questions for me!!!!
1. Can you give some information on the percent of teenage pregnancy in the past 2 years??? Can you tell me if it has gone down or up!!!
2. What's the main reason girls get pregnant??
3. Do you think the conclusion of this is for teen girl to get on birth control??? What do you think?
Need to Know
This Saturday after prom some of my close friends will be staying the night at my friends house. It's okay with her parents, and parents will be there at all times. The boys will be sleeping downstairs, in the garage that has been re-done, and the girls will be sleeping upstairs. My mom and dad are very skeptical about the whole idea, and thought I should ask you for some advice.
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July 10, 2016
If you really want a bf/gf, but don't have one, and everyone else does, it can bring you down. You may wonder, "What's wrong with me?" I totally remember feeling this way in high school. It sucked. Once you buy a ticket to ride that depressing train of thought, you'll assume you don't have enough of whatever you think you need to be loved. ("I'm not hot enough, not cool enough, not thin enough, not buff enough, not outgoing enough, etc. etc. etc.")
So I understand what's going on when I get an email like this one:
Hey Terra -
I shouldn't be upset about this but I am. I'm going to be 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend or even had a guy ask me out. I'm worried I'll be unprepared for a real committed relationship and be forever alone. I really want to know what that teenager rush of young love feels like that so many of my friends have experienced. What do I do? - Ms. Loveless
Dear Ms. Loveless,
I understand where you’re coming from. But please don’t assume that teen relationships prepare you for “real” committed adult relationships based on mutual trust, respect, honesty, shared values, open communication. They rarely do. You need to be an adult to have an adult relationship. As intelligent and mature as you seem to be, you are still becoming an adult, not there yet. You are still a full-time student, still living in your parents' home, being supported and supervised by them. More »