Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
July 16, 2014
Breaking up is hard to do. And painful. Hopefully, though, there were good times before the relationship tanked, so at least you've got some happy memories. On the other hand, if you're obsessed with someone who was never nice to you, well, that's just pain on pain. No one needs that.
Recently got an email from a girl in that dark place. Read on...
My heart aches for him and I really want to move, but I find myself checking his instagram, facebook, and all other social media just to see him. I cant let go, even though I want to so bad. I'm torn between wanting him to want me and wanting to forget about him completely. It's been almost a year. I just hate this obsession. What do I do? –So Stuck
Dear So Stuck,
The truth may hurt, but I've got to say it anyway. This guy doesn’t care about you, That's the way it is. You may wish things were different, but all the wishing in the Known Universe and beyond will not change fact.
Here’s something else that’s true: You deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. This guy is not The One. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you will find The One (Maybe during this coming school year! There’s an exciting thought!)
In the meantime, you've got to stop checking up on this guy. It’s a total waste of the summer and, more important, it's bringing you down. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“I think my brother is doing drugs.”
“My friend is a much better dancer than me.”
I think my brother is drinking and MAYBE doing drugs I wish he wouldn't! I don't want to get the 'rents involved but I want him to stop. We have a pretty good relationship but I don't think he's telling me as much as he used to. How do I figure out truth from talk and try and stop it???
I really want to compete with my jazz dance, but my teacher said that my group can't. I know that we're a team, and I'm not the best dancer in the world. Then why is it that I feel like I'm stabbing my friend in the heart every time I make a mistake? How can I convince my teacher to say yes, and take this guilt off my back?
Born 2 Compete
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