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Terra (aka Annie Fox)
April 15, 2013This morning's email brought some of the usual questions from TeenWorld:
- How do I stop being shy so I can make more friends?
- Should I tell me bff that I kissed her bf?
- My friend can be kinda mean, but my life wouldn't be the same with out her. What should I do?
- My parents accuse me of smoking and doing drugs. I don't! How can I get them to trust me?
And then there was this one. Even though I've heard it before, somehow it felt new. I responded right away, but if that's all I did only one girl would see it. For something this important I decided to go bigger.
Girls, have a read. So when it comes to self-respect, relationships and sex, we can get clear on a few basics. If you're a mom with a girl of your own, you should read it too. (Just don't go nuts and accuse your daughter of anything! Not helpful for keeping open the portals of trust and communication.) And if you're a teen guy or a dad, probably a good idea for you to read it too. Then you can think (and maybe even talk) about respect and relationships and the god's honest truth that girls and guys don't typically share a common perspective on sex and what it means.
A lot of my friends have lost their virginity and I really want to lose it and get it over and done with. This guy that I've known for ages but haven't seen for a while wants me to come over tomorrow have sex with him. I want to, but I don't know what the consequences are. More »
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“I can't take this anymore!”
Everything is just falling apart... my dad got laid off.... and today I went online and I IMed one of my friends and I was like "hey. I gotta go to work today :( ." she says: "then go. this is Joe-" that's her boyfriend who is such a jerk that I told her to get rid of but she won't listen. So I just replied, "oh great." and then I closed the IM box. And he just said a lot of things and threatened me and I printed it and showed my mom and dad. The things he said didn't hurt me, but when I went to my room... I just broke down crying... it was a mix of things cuz of my dad losing his job and...
“It's no fun being the ugly duckling.”
So this is my story, at my school I am in a group of 6 gorgeous girls (including myself would make us 7). But I don't find myself pretty at all. Usually I end up finding myself in situations where I can't be happy for my friends when they get complimented on their good looks, or when they change a hair style and everyone loves it.
Even though these girls are my close friends there are 2 girls within the group whom I am not so close with, and have personalities that can frankly get rather dull, and uninteresting but because of their good looks, everything seems to come easy to them. Also, I...
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