Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. Well, you’ve come to the right place. Teens have been writing to me since 1997 because they know I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else that’s confusing… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. Some choices make things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move.
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
April 15, 2013This morning's email brought some of the usual questions from TeenWorld:
- How do I stop being shy so I can make more friends?
- Should I tell me bff that I kissed her bf?
- My friend can be kinda mean, but my life wouldn't be the same with out her. What should I do?
- My parents accuse me of smoking and doing drugs. I don't! How can I get them to trust me?
And then there was this one. Even though I've heard it before, somehow it felt new. I responded right away, but if that's all I did only one girl would see it. For something this important I decided to go bigger.
Girls, have a read. So when it comes to self-respect, relationships and sex, we can get clear on a few basics. If you're a mom with a girl of your own, you should read it too. (Just don't go nuts and accuse your daughter of anything! Not helpful for keeping open the portals of trust and communication.) And if you're a teen guy or a dad, probably a good idea for you to read it too. Then you can think (and maybe even talk) about respect and relationships and the god's honest truth that girls and guys don't typically share a common perspective on sex and what it means.
A lot of my friends have lost their virginity and I really want to lose it and get it over and done with. This guy that I've known for ages but haven't seen for a while wants me to come over tomorrow have sex with him. I want to, but I don't know what the consequences are. More »
From Terra’s Inbox
“How do I let go and trust him?”
I have been in a relationship for almost two years and our relationship is perfect except we spend every second we have with each other crying and yelling because of my fear that he is going to cheat on me. He works with really pretty girls, and I am afraid that he judges other girls besides me. He tells me that when he sees a girl he is not judging them but he sees them as a person like any other person. I'm so afraid to get hurt. How do I let go and trust him? I want to believe what he is saying and instead of fighting all the time spend that time loving each other. Please help. He is...
“I have feelings for my girlfriend and another guy.”
I am a 14 yr old guy and even though this might sound stupid, I have feelings for two people at once and wouldn't dare give up one for the other. I have a girlfriend that I have been going out with for 8 months and I really love her and then I started to like this guy (which I didn't tell her that I liked) and I kind of am confused as to whether or not it is ok to feel this way or is it wrong and I am like perverted or something?
What I also would like help with is one other thing. It's like I want to have sex with them both and that I like the company of men and women. I think about guys a...
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